You being a bachelor, would have experienced many things in life until now. May it be heart-breaks, mistakes, apologizing, and what not. But there are a few important things that you really need to experience before you get married, so that you have a really healthy and a happy life ahead in the future, and also have good relationship with your spouse and her dear ones. Darshan Sethi, and expert from Darshan Sethi Photography, suggests that these are the tremendous things that you need to do, before taking the next big step!
Learn from mistakes
Look back at the past and figure out the things that according to you went wrong. Looking back at the mistakes makes you learn so many things which you might not learn otherwise. This makes you a better person, and a better version of you comes out who has an experience. This also helps you in not making the same mistakes in the future, because you would already know about what the outcome is going to be!
Spend time alone
People generally get attracted to the ones who are really chilled out. This attitude can come only if you are comfortable with yourself. If this is the scene, then you are likely to attract someone who is comfortable with you. In order to be comfortable with yourself, you really need to spend time alone and figure out what you really want and what you really want to do in life.
DIY stands for ‘Do It Yourself’. Every thing can not be done by your mother or your wife. There are things that you can contribute to, as well. Before everything, learn to take care of yourself first. This can include cooking for yourself, making your own bed, cleaning your room, keeping the things in place, and what not. You need to learn these things, so that you are not always dependent on your wife in the future.
Know your spouse’s family and friends
If you want to know your spouse better, you really need to mingle up with their family and friends. This not just makes you know them in a better way, but also makes a good impression about you in their minds. Friends and family are the only ones who know the deepest secrets about someone which they would not let out so easily. You need to make them comfortable with you, and you need to be comfortable with them as well, and make them secure enough for the same.
Learn to apologize sincerely
Women never apologize if it is not their mistake. Do not expect your spouse to apologize for your mistakes. You will have to keep your ego down and apologize to get rid of the big disasters that ruin the relationship. To avoid this, you need to learn to put your ego down and apologize for the things that you genuinely feel are wrong, and be sincere about it.
Explore what you want to do
You must be sure about what exactly you want to do, and not always listen to other people. If your parents are forcing you to marry, make them understand that you are not ready for marriage, if you seriously are not. If you are, then marry the girl who you think is perfect to spend your life with, without coming under any kind of pressure. You need to make people understand that it is your life, and you are the one who is going to run it till the end, and not them!
Spend time around kids
Spending time around kids can help in two ways. One, it would help you handle your woman in a better way. Tantrums of women and kids are almost the same. If you can handle the worst tantrums of the naughtiest kid, then you are all set to handle any woman. Also, women love it when the men play around with the kids. They find it very attractive. Two, you will get to know how the kids are, as you will have to manage them after you plan for kids in the future. This can also make you think about the marriage in the beginning, but later you will love the idea about it.
Look after your career
Any woman would be attracted towards the man who knows what he wants to do in life, and in the future as well. A man who knows about his career can reach heights. It would be easier for the woman to make you meet her parents, so that they would not hesitate in giving their daughter in the hands of a person who has a good career.
There must be many doubts before a wedding, and it is advised that you must clear them out before the big day, so as to avoid problems in the future. If you have spent many years with the woman of your dreams, then there would be many things that you would understand, that would lead you to a happily married life!