The relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a bitter sweet treat. It is tricky, complicated and yet, full of love. It’s the due responsibility of the new member (daughter-in-law) of the family to take care of her mother-in-law and father-in-law, to look after them with all the love and affection and to respect them whole heartedly and also get the same in return from them. This is not a tough goal to achieve if you know what to speak and at what time, your gestures should be really indicative to let them believe that you have accepted them as your new family.
Now the question is, how do we do this all? Don’t worry, here are some point which can be laid emphasize on and can be used to communicate with your mother-in-law.
You are equally important
Now that you are married, you have many new things to accept in your life. One thing is your parents, your parent-in-law are your parents now. Tell your mother-in-law that she holds an equal place to you as your own mother and that you will always treat her like one. You should talk to her more often, share things with her and respect her on the same pace. This will reduce your communication gaps and make your relationship smooth and happy.
Any relationship can break apart when there is lack of trust and here, we are talking about a very complex relationship. So, a mutual trust should be kept maintained by both, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law. There are many crucial decisions and circumstances where you need to stand on everyone’s expectations, tell her that you will never fail to put efforts to fulfill everybody’s needs and she should have faith in you.
I love your son
Tell her that she has been a great mother to her son and she has nurtured so well that he is a perfect person now. You love all his flaws and perfections and his mother’s image reflects in him. He is a great person and always ace at everything.
You are irreplaceable
No one, ever can take her dignity and position in home and she will still be treated the same as she has been treated till now. Her dear son will always pay her just the right amount of attention and his love for her will not be over taken by your love. She is the most loved person in the family.
I need you
A mother is always great at giving advices and showing paths of guidance. Tell her that you need her opinions and advices in any sort of decisions you will make. The ideology of both of you may differ and sometimes you might have some clashes but you both can always settle them down and come to an effective conclusion. You will commit many mistakes and faults but she is the one who should scold you for it and make you understand. As you have left your home where you have spend all your life till now, you need her to make you feel home and give you regards and you should promise her the same.
Not only these things that you now know to wonder upon to keep your mother-in-law happy, you can also sometimes take some time out and go out with her, have a good quality time spent with her and make her feel alive in all the possible ways. You may also be interested in reading How To Make Your 7 Vows Work in Real.