No matter what ever happens, we always depend upon the opinions of the other people, their reactions and words, to feel good about ourselves. Knowing more about yourself from other’s point of view is as important as knowing about your own self. We totally believe and depend upon what people tell us, especially if the words are from your life partner. This is inevitable, because in the way of life we need to love others, but that is only possible if we love our-selves in the first place. Darshan Sethi, from Darshan Sethi Photography gives some tips about the same!
Wondering if you love yourself
First of all, it is up to you as to how you see yourself. It may sound funny, but you need to ask yourself questions like ‘Do I like myself?’, ‘Do I love the way I am?’, and many more questions related to the same. It is vital to learn new things, and laugh at your own mistakes, and not feeling bad about them. Why feel bad when you are learning from them.This would help you find out as to what you really want from life, your partner, and yourself, and go on to achieve them. That is what we need to do- improve our self-esteem, and can also be happy and sensible about what the others are trying to express to you.
Making constructive criticism
No body is an expert in any relationship, and judge what is right and what is wrong.Nobody can possibly do that. What ever the situation is, you need to make sure that you are in the favor of the argument, if it is for a positive thing, and not destroy the relationship or the argument. You need to make sure that at least you understand that the fights keep happening, and the only option is not to break apart. If your partner does not understand, and does wrong things in the heat of the moment, then you should be mature enough, and handle things and make them right.
Helping to improve weaknesses
If your relationship can address the issue constructively, and you and your partner are trying to help each other, then in this case, you can even detect and improve the weaknesses of one another. It is not about who has more aspects to change, but it is about figuring the weaknesses out, and dealing with them with love and respect. Always make sure that your partner over comes their weaknesses, even if you have to go out of the way and do something special.
Relying on the capabilities
Some times your partner has a dream or a project, then you should never doubt their capabilities. Instead, what you have to do is to support them, and make sure that they achieve them. All they need is support and strength from their life partner, which would help them develop personally and professionally. All you need to do is support them through out, and never let them down even for a bit. This would be their biggest strength, and they would not want to give up at all.
Avoid being possessive
If you have chosen your partner to be your life partner, then just remember that it is for a reason: that you love them the most. You need to keep telling them that you want them by your side forever, no matter how harsh the situation is. A sign of low self-esteem is when we demand of the partner being next to us the entire time and keeping an eye on them every now and then. Being possessive is not going to solve any thing, instead, it would just make the things worse.
Highlighting the best of your partner
How many times have you expressed to your partner about how happy you are about them being an important part of your life? Well, these are the small things that makes the other person secure about the relationship, and in turn, makes them happy as well. It is not necessary to wait for any festival, occasion, or his birthday to tell him what he really means to you, and how important he is in your life.
There are words, behaviors, and attitude that can help strengthen or weaken your partner’s self-esteem. There are a lot of things you need to take care about when you are in a serious and committed relationship, so that you are there for each other at every difficulty and success of your lives. Self-esteem is how we feel confident about ourselves to face the world. Arguments are something that are worst things in a relationship. Well, there are a few ways by which you can avoid them!